What determines our mood or sense of well being? Is it what is happening in our lives, or rather, the way we think about what is happening? If you take a moment to think about your life, and others around you, you may realize how much energy you (or others) spend complaining about events or situations in your (or their) life.
Negative thinking seems normal because it seems obvious, however, what this is doing is stating our judgement or criticism of what is happening. Others may see it or choose to view it differently. There is no true external reality, only our interpretation of it.
If you keep on verbalizing certain thoughts to yourself, and continue thinking them, you are turning those thoughts into reality, and creating a negative bubble and headspace that will continually bring you down. It is taking the negative thought, stating it aloud and spreading the negative energy.
This doesn’t mean we need to be oblivious to real-life problems. It simply means that talking about your issues repeatedly does nothing but make you and your listeners feel bad. The first step would be to take action to change the situation (positively), or find something positive to talk about.
What we think is what we will create. Thinking negatively about yourself is damaging to your mind, body, and soul, whereas positive thinking helps brighten and strengthen that divine inner life force. If you want to do something and then come up with reasons why it will never work, it is like typing a great idea and then pressing delete.
Dwelling on past misfortunes, hurts, or missed opportunities literally puts our bodies back into those situations, and our brain and body reacts in the same way as when you were experiencing those hurts; worry and anger physically causes the body to release stress hormones and suppresses our immune system. To put it simply, focusing on the negative is toxic and poisons our inner environment. Positive thinking has the opposite effect.
Add quality to your life by focusing on the positive, and start viewing situations in a different light. Once we start changing the way we think, we will start changing the way we feel and react to the ones we love, whether it be friends, family, or perhaps even complete strangers!